THE HOOK UP
It's the call every girl dreads: Your bestie is sobbing into the phone that she and her guy broke up. It's easy to say the wrong thing--or have no idea what. 27 Mar Falling in love with and then subsequently dating your best friend is obviously a well-worn rom-com trope, but can it ever actually work out IRL? Sure, your significant other is supposed to be your best friend, but some buddies never pursue a romance out of fear that they'll break up and ruin their relationship. 8 Jun Hello and welcome to our advice column, “Ask MR,” where we answer your burning questions in the hopes of being the ointment to your life rash. Ask us questions by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject line “ASK MR A QUESTION,” or leave yours in the comments. Help MR: How do you deal.
Your friend is awesome: Before the actual hook-up happens, there are a couple important things to consider. To help you decide if hooking up with your friend is the best idea or not, consider these pros and cons!
Hooking up with a friend could confirm if you both actually want to become more than friendssomething that you may have only realized because you did hook up.
If you and your friend are in the same friend group, you might try to keep it a secret if it was a one-time deal and you want to move past it.
Too bad word travels fast. Whether your friends are weird because the dynamic of your group changed or they just want to push your buttons, be prepared to get the side comment or blatant joke about it. So much for keeping it on the DL.
Breaking Up With Your Best Friend
Clare says that despite hooking up with her close friend a few times, they were able to laugh it off because of their strong friendship. However, it could end up being totally awkward, even if you try to make it as non-awkward as possible. You could have to deal with anything from forced conversations to complete silence. It was pretty devastating to me because I feel like he completely disregarded the fact that we were friends and that we could continue being friends without the weirdness.
Now we only argue when we talk. The worst-case scenario is that a hook-up ends a friendship. We broke it off…and we drifted apart naturally. Ultimately, you do have some control of the outcome and how you handle it.
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Whether the aftermath is positive or negative, communication after hooking up with a friend is key. Whether the experience was good or bad, you have to talk the next day. This means discussing if you want to tell your other friends, if it was a one-time thing or if you have feelings for each other.
Use the fact that you know each other well to navigate the aftermath as smoothly as possible. By weighing the pros and cons beforehand and knowing what to expect afterwards, you can successfully handle a friend hook-up, no matter how it turns out!
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I still miss her and think of her often. Sun 11 Feb We broke it off…and we drifted apart naturally. Dr Buchanan says that sometimes people are confused and have no idea why they've been ghosted.
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I will miss her, every memory seems painful and I am not sure how I can deal with that. After that I tried to slow down the cadence of our communication and tried to change the subject when she wanted to talk about her emotional issues. Turns out, it was only the mutual friend staying in my flat. Your comment gives me hope that we can be cordial someday soon! As someone who devotes most of my time to one very close friend, it left me with a huge hole in my life.