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23 Mar How to deal when that makeout sesh (or more) sends you spiraling out HARD. 14 Feb Because they're all different and no one knows what the differences actually are, so I think it's time to bring to light these differences so people can actually You don't hang out unless you're going to hook up, or have already hooked up and don't want to be an asshole and tell the other person to leave. 30 Apr Drink. Do it. Repeat.
Understandably, you've thought of nothing else since… but you're no longer obsessing over the magical feeling of her-lips-on-yours or the sight-of-him-shirtless.
Oh no, no, no. Your gut has doubts and your head has questions.
We make it easier! Are people going to talk about me if they find out? You tried to make it work, and failed miserably; seeing the other person gives your stomach the same feeling as a funnel of lukewarm Montezuma tequila. Lack of Pressure and Personal Responsibility One of the reasons that relationships based on hookups can work well is that both partners retain personal responsibility for their decisions.
In fact, you're straight-up unsettled. But that's exactly why we're going to walk you through a few of the most commonly confusing feels, so you can figure out what's normal, what's not… and why it all matters, too.
The bottom line is: You just hooked up! And it felt good! But to get a little more scientific about it, this skip-yourself-down-the-street state-of-consciousness that often occurs in the immediate aftermath of a makeout sesh is actually a biological thing, too.
You're fresh off that crazy-cool neurological response that was making you feel all tingly and warm. Remember, you're literally high on hookup hormones right now. That's totally natural too. But use that feeling to dig deep and figure out why: Did I go too far?
Was it really my decision… or did I feel really pressured? Sometimes, there's a hard crash after the hookup hormones wear off, and your journey out of the clouds ends with a sobering dose of all-of-the-reality-at-once. We never really talked about whether or not we're officially going out. And we were totally safe, right? While it's normal to worry a littlefeeling totally freaked can be a sign that you weren't entirely prepared to take that step you just took — maybe you wish you had gotten to know the person better, or had wanted to DTR first, or, if you had sex, maybe you didn't use a condom in the heat of the moment.
It's sooooo messed up, but many girls feel like they've done something really wrong, just because they've hooked up. No doubt, there may be some big questions running through your head: Does this make me slutty? Are people going to talk about me if they find out? Seriously, forget everyone else! Were you feeling great about your decision…until your friend made a comment?
Was it safe and respectful, but you feel like you broke the "rules" of your parents or your link The truth is, feeling "off" in the aftermath of a make-out sesh should NOT be ignored. You just shared something SO insanely intimate with someone, and now your head What Are The Different Stages Of Hookup running around in this hyper-aware state.
It's like you're waiting for that person to fail you! Wow, he's the only person who knows about that birthmark on my butt.
And shouldn't he have texted me, like, a million times already? Or… does it just feel weird?
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But before you put this on them, reflect back on yourself for a sec: What do I want out of this arrangement? Am I getting it? Have I been honest about my feelings… to myself AND to this other person?
Sadly, there's no one foolproof way to proceed from here, but just raising these Qs can help to stop the spiraling.
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Plus, now you've pushed yourself to tap into your true feelings. How can I be better prepared? How far do I want to go?
And what kind of relationship do I want before that happens? The great thing is — despite how hard this hurricane of emotions hit you this time around — you now know what you feel comfortable doing and what you don't. And you can use that knowledge to make decisions you feel better about from here on out.
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